Dear Ryan,
I am not a fan of talking to 'experts', but a faceless and anonymous scenario like this would work I guess.
I am 23, just graduated from Uni and moved back to Nigeria last year.
I met Dozie in Houston while visiting a friend's family with her in 2012. He was Nandir, my friend's boyfriend. She had confided in me several times that it was leading nowhere, as he was going back to Nigeria, and she would rather stay back in the states. Coupled with the fact that her parents were not buying the idea that she was not marrying from Plateau.
I always thought Dozie was charming, but never gave him a second thought.
Fast forward to last year, Dozie and I met at a friend's wedding in Asaba. We both found out we were in Lagos, he already had a great job and I was searching for the dream job in Lagos.
Hung out a few times and now, he is asking me out.
I really like him, and he seems sincere with his feelings, but I don't know if I should accept, speak with Nandir first (they are no longer together) or just move on.

I have seen this kind of scenarios before and I always was against dating a friend's ex, but now I am in this situation and I really don't know what to do.

What should I do

Onome

Hello World!

I will start by being honest and say my name is NOT Ryan! I would like pseudonym as I have found out over the years that a lot of people are more comfortable (than they realise) sharing with strangers who will not judge them, and that is what I would like to be, your friend and your medium to self expression.

You can stay behind a pseudonym when sharing as well, what I am interested in is trying to see how we can find a solution to your problem. We will be trying to find solutions from three major sources, My experience/Other people’s, Noteworthy experts, then ultimately the Bible. Yes, I am a Christian, that much about myself I will share.

Let’s start sharing!